Sex, sex, sex

Sex is incredibly important in our current culture. We have tied it to our identity and the concept of individual freedom. The upshot is that we have the right to express our sexuality and explore sexual experiences.

 

As Christians we disagree. This of course gets us into trouble with our community.

So why can’t people do what they like when it comes to sex?

1) Purpose

Sex is about a unique union between one man and one woman. This union involves
emotional, behavioural, intellectual, physical, and spiritual aspects. Sex is part of it. It promotes a healthy relationship in the marriage.

Sexual freedom can pull the oneness of the unit apart.

So the purpose is not self-gratification. The goal is one flesh.

2) Priorities

My identity is important and so is my freedom, but surely they are trumped by love. To be perfectly frank, the way people engage in casual sex is abusive. It doesn't matter who the other person is or if they want what we want, they just need to deliver.

3) Created order

We are made in the image of God. That means, we are relational beings first and foremost. That’s why it’s possible to choose abstinence. Sex is not the core of our being, relationships with God, each other and our environment is.

4) Worship

More important that self-gratification is the self-giving surrender to God (Romans 12:1-2). Our worship is in our choice to flee sexual immorality and embrace godly actions and relationships.

I hope you noticed that as a Christian I am not against sex. In fact, I'm very much for it. The Bible sees it as a good gift from God (1 Tim 4:4-5) that should be enjoyed regularly (1 Cor 7:1-6). What I'm arguing is that sex has it's place and when used correctly can enhance a relationship.